February 15th, 2011• 12:01pm •
You heard from my incredibly wise, patient, wonderful and Godly fiancé yesterday, so here’s a peek into the other side of the story as I reveal just a little of the miracle of how the Lord brought us together. It truly is a miracle! I think back on all the events leading up to these last few glorious months and praise the Lord for never letting me stray and showing me the importance of sticking to Scripture despite opposition.
This “love story” began eleven years ago when I made the decision to submit to my father’s authority and let him approve of any guy who was interested before I talked to him. This submission to my earthly father not only strengthened our relationship, but it drew me closer to my heavenly Father. Over these last years, the Lord brought countless situations where I had to make a decision based on His Word and not on other’s opinions, emotions, or how it appeared by sheer logic. The Lord was training me to obey His voice, know it intimately, and follow Him without question.
After ten years of no one coming to Dad, I started contemplating the idea of being single for the rest of my life and became excited about the freedom it would lend to minister to others more effectively (or so I thought) and settled, very contentedly, in what I was doing here in Big Sandy, TX.
Last summer, the Lord brought three young men to my father, all wonderful and Godly men who desired Him with their whole heart. How was one to determine which was the Lord’s “one?” Simple: by following the lessons He had taught and prepared me with previously—to trust and obey. I trusted that the Lord would reveal the right one first through my father and then through Scripture, and I obeyed the direction of my father. Even when things weren’t going the way I had planned, I listened to my father and was blessed beyond my wildest dreams as I entered a relationship with Robert. The Lord confirmed it through my parents and then gave me Scriptures to support their decision.
I look back now and see how everything fits together, how clear the Lord’s warnings were when I started heading down a wrong path because I thought I knew better than my Dad, how vivid His display of blessings and love, and how much more He wanted to bless if only I would trust. These last ten years have been the foundation of my relationship with Robert because during those years of waiting and trusting, the Lord brought me to the place of being content no matter where I am. It is rightly said that you will never be content married if you are not content single.
It has been a wonderful joy to get to know Robert better than a friend and as he mentioned, to do it freely, with the consent of our parents, and without guilt. Yet another confirmation gleaned from this experience has been watching the sovereignty of God and how all things really do work together for good to them that love the Lord. ALL THINGS…not some, not most, but all things. We need never fear if we’ll miss “the one,” or if we’re in the right place, what if our parents don’t approve, what if we don’t like the guy, or what our future holds. Our job is to love the Lord. He’s more concerned about our love life than we are! The more we love Him, the more we’ll have the capacity to love others…including wonderful fiancés like Robert. That’s all that life boils down to…love God.