Last week we looked at not comparing ourselves with others.  Following is the third of seven Biblical points which can help resolve the fear of rejection.

3. Accept Your Unchangeables.

Instead of becoming bitter over her childhood blindness, Fanny Crosby used it as a motivation to write beautiful hymns

Instead of becoming bitter over her childhood blindness, Fanny Crosby used it as a motivation to write beautiful hymns

If we do not accept how God designed us, how can we expect others to accept us? Other people can quickly sense when we feel self-conscious about our basic appearance, our intellectual capabilities, our national origin, or other God-given unchangeables. They will especially notice how we respond to a physical defect or scar.

Before we were formed in the womb, God designed us in His mind and He ordained us to proclaim of His truth to nations. (See Jeremiah 1:5 and Matthew 28:19-20.) By thanking God for the way He designed us, and by viewing our “defects” as “marks of ownership,” we will be able to remove this root cause of the fear of rejection.

God has designed us to honor Him in all things.  Remember the blind man who was born blind, not because he or his parents had sinned, but “that the works of God should be made manifest in him” (John 9:3b).  Think how God can use your unchangeables to bring Him glory.

It is true that God has given us some unchangeables, and we are to thank Him for those. However, we must also be aware of changeable features which we must correct. If we dress with sloppy clothing, we are saying to people, “This is how I feel about myself.” If we dress appropriately, we are saying, “I belong to God, and I want to honor the way He designed me.” The same is true of the way we keep our hair. A woman’s long hair is her glory. (See I Corinthians 11:15.) The way she takes care of her hair speaks greatly to other people. Being grossly overweight is another important changeable. Obesity is a matter of food intake and may also be triggered by hormonal imbalances from stress such as bitterness, guilt, etc.

In closing, remember a statement David made that is true for all of us: “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them. How precious also are thy thoughts unto me, O God! how great is the sum of them!” (Psalm 139:14-17).

Stay tuned next week for Key #4.

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